August 26, 2015: relationships are hard work and sometimes you just need to fucking let things go

I’ve been hearing a lot about marital breakdowns amongst people I know lately.  I think in this generation, people tend to seperate more often than in our parents generation not because they consider relationships as disposable but because they place a higher value on themselves and their happiness. Life is too short to waste time on people that make you unhappy. With that said, relationships are an investment and you get out of them what you put in. If you don’t water your goddamn grass it’s going to dry up and die. 

A few days ago the 2016 IKEA catalogue arrived in my mailbox. My spouse pointed out the Poang chair as something he found comfortable. I said I didn’t like them and we weren’t getting one. Cut to yesterday when I come home from work to find him assembling said Poang chair in our living room. 

I was pissed. I said no and he purposely went out and bought it knowing I didn’t want it. The made in China shit chair replaced my $800 made in North America chair. I spent my entire evening being angry, partly for the chair that I didn’t want, and partly that it was purchased knowing that I objected to it. I dwelled on it and it made me miserable.

Today I have decided that a chair is a chair. It is not worth getting into an argument about and making me unhappy. I can choose how I react to things and in the grand scheme of life, a chair is unimportant. I need to fucking relax and let it go.  Someday I might even sit in it. Maybe. 

   
   

2 thoughts on “August 26, 2015: relationships are hard work and sometimes you just need to fucking let things go

  1. Maybe he should come home to you calmly demolishing said chair! Sometimes little things “let go” leads to submissiveness! But pay me no mind. This comes from someone who will be married 35 years in November. You might say I’m jaded!

    1. You’re right, it’s important to ensure that you’re respected in a relationship. It does bring me some joy to see that he’s had to put a towel and a pillow on the chair because it’s not as comfortable as he thought it would be.

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